"Your life is a learning experience- take it all in and cherish every single detail..."
Written by Dear Black Woman Jenny Cedor
Dear Jenny,
“Your life is a learning experience- take it all in and cherish every single detail that you come across as you grow. Continue to love and forgive everyone and everything—you will be better for it.”
You have grown into an incredible woman. Your father first and foremost would have been so proud of your growth- you were his life till death. Your mom is your biggest cheerleader, and you are her heartbeat. She appreciates you and all that you do. Your growth has come in stages. You were once that shy little girl who was scared to blossom and everyone wondered if your quietness would consume you. You became that mouthy preteen with a pretend chip on her shoulder—deep down you were just trying to find that voice. That period of time was indeed a failed experiment. You became that teenager carrying the world on your shoulder because life took turns beyond your control. You carried it all with so much grace and control. You became a young woman ready to explore life and its possibilities, but the fear of flying was deeply rooted. You put up walls, barbwires, barricades and etc. because anything else would be beyond your control. You let love pass you by because you lacked trust first in yourself. You were a young woman emotionally insecure and feared the brokenness that might have shadowed love. Your late 20’s though is the woman that you were destined to be–so full of life, love and raw emotions that radiates through your pores. You’ve allowed yourself to be vulnerable and that was okay for you. You’ve pushed the envelope further than you’ve ever done and that was okay for you. You’ve made mistakes that you should promise yourself now to never make again and that was okay for you. You’ve fallen so deeply in love and that was okay for you. You’ve had your heart broken and that was okay for you. One thing though that carried on from then till now is the love for yourself. You never once doubted or had insecurities about Jenny, and that is so beautiful.
There is so much more that you need to do, so much more that you need to see, and so much more that you need to feel. Always be kind to yourself, your spirit and your body. Don’t let your weakness take advantage of your brain- be steady in control of the beauty that exists so deep in you. Your life is a learning experience- take it all in and cherish every single detail that you come across as you grow. Continue to love and forgive everyone and everything—you will be better for it. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and I love everything about you.
Yours till beauty marks,
Jenny
